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From Rev. Benjamin Badgett, Rector
This morning our household woke up to one of our favorite traditions: Birthday Cake for Breakfast! Today, we celebrated one of our children’s birthdays bright and early at 6:15 a.m. before the school bus pick up.
As we celebrated this birthday, it took my memory back to those early years of all my children’s birth stories. And as my mind wandered through their various stages of physical/social/emotional development I remember one age in particular: late elementary school. It was at this stage, that one of my sons, all of a sudden was worried about what his hair looked like.
That may seem like a strange memory to hold onto, but for me, it was watching a turning point in his development when he began to care and notice what other people thought of him (and what he thought of himself). He was finally beginning to perceive, to imagine outside eyes watching him. The world began to crack open in a way it hadn’t for him yet.
We have all come through that stage at some point in our lives when our mind’s eye begins to open up. One interpretation of the story of Adam and Eve, in Genesis chapters 2-3, when they eat from the “tree of the knowledge of good and evil,” is that this story is about the archetypal awakening that is inevitable in human development. Meaning, that the human experience naturally involves a reckoning with our innocence and the world around us. Like watching a child, grow, seemingly blissfully ignorant of the foils of the world until the day they are not.
When I consider Jesus’ teaching: “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God” it makes me think of those who live in the freedom of their child like state. The intimacy with God, can be as close as it was in the garden of Eden. And, yet, once we “leave the garden” it seems near impossible to return: we cannot unlearn what we learn of this world. Our heart and our head begin to diverge.
Today, we live with the perpetual evidence of a world that no longer lives in blissful paradise. We live in a world ravaged by wars, abuses of power, indifference to the suffering of others, and so many other sinful elements which draw us further from God, our self and one another. Oh, to live in simpler times! Oh, to retreat to the nostalgia of a previous age in our lives!
Like Nicodemus (John 3), we are left scratching our heads about how one is to be born again, born from above. We cannot reenter our mother’s womb, and start over in the state of infancy. So, we must find a new way to come back into relationship with God, our self, and others.
I miss the days when my son was oblivious to the fact that he had a hair out of place or peanut butter and jelly smeared across his cheek. But, I am grateful for the days that he can now wash his own face and brush his own hair. But even further, as I watch him (and all his siblings) grow, I see evidence of the ability to empathize, to see himself in someone else’s shoes. Perhaps this is the gift needed to reconnect the head and the heart.
As these humans that I live with grow out of their childhood and into their adulthood, they are reminding me of the hard work that is required to cultivate empathy. They may not be returning to the previous “Garden,” but they are learning to create a new one.
And just like them, we all encounter real moments when we must try to see that the world does not revolve around us; and that there are other people in this world who, like us, need every bit of love and compassion and empathy that we can offer.
As we grow, we must now train our heads and our hearts to be in communion together. The heart of our child-self, and the head of our adult-self need not live separate lives. As we move from birthday to birthday, age to age, we are to take all of our self along for the journey; and as we do so, we pray for the grace to see the image of God in one another.
Benjamin
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